How to stay focused in a conversation

If you find that your mind wanders doing a conversation and it could come across as sort of rude if you kinda turn off and just, you know, lose your focus, what you can do is plant your feet so that you’re facing right towards the other person, alright. You can even try to lean in towards them a little bit and try to focus, sometimes it can help to look at their mouth; look at their eyes but focus on them, the physical person. Look at the person and focus on their words and try not to always be thinking about what you’re going to say and that’s how you’ll be a better listener and you’ll be more focused and you’ll know how to stay focused in a conversation.

Be happier in life

We live in a world where you turn on the television and you see all the things that rich and famous people have and so that make you feel lesser because you don’t have those things. The thing to focus on is – is the things that you do have. Have, have, you know if you have your health, if you have a friend, if you have a job, you can just look inwards, things that you do have, you can appreciate, so try to pay less attention to what everybody else is doing and what everybody else has and look inside yourself and that we will make you feel happier and be happier in life.

How do I stay focused on my homework?

If you’re having trouble studying and you’re thinking, “how do I stay focused on my homework?” and you can’t stay focused, here’s a trick. Get a piece of paper or a pad of paper and a pen and keep them with you when you are studying. What you are going to do is as soon as you get an idea in your head, you’re going to write it down on the pad and go back to studying. That’s the idea. Ok?

Instead of thinking about the idea or playing it through, you’ll get back to it – you can look at the pad later but just write anything that bugs you or distracts into your head; write it down on your pad and go back to studying; that’s how you stay focused on homework.

How to get more friends at school

Sometimes, we don’t, we don’t feel like we have friends and that ties in with not feeling popular; sometimes we don’t feel popular and that can be really hard especially if you’re a teenager. You wonder how to get more friends at school, where your whole world is made up of the friends that you have and high school tends to be a hierarchy sorted by popularity.

That’s all, that’s all it can feel like sometimes but you should realize that it gets better; it gets a lot better and the world as you leave high school and move into whatever you’re going to do beyond high school – the people around you will shift and change and I’ve been out of high school for awhile now and I’m not in touch, I think I’m mainly in touch with one guy from high school and it doesn’t matter. Your whole friend group will change and people develop and change. Realize that you’re not alone; a lot of people feel , despite what they look like on the surface or what it seems like on the surface, a lot of people feel like they don’t have a lot of friends and I would say that it gets better but also in the moment, focus on being a good friend to other people and focus on and being less concerned with having a lot of friends and try to have a few good friends and hang in there.

I can’t sleep because of anxiety

Have you ever been awake at night and you’re, you’re thinking about all of the things you have to do and it’s stressing you out. So what’s, what’s a tip that you can do to feel a little bit less stressed – very simple: get a piece of paper and a pen and just write down everything that’s on your mind – just get it out of your head because there’s a part of your brain that’s job it is to kind of keep track of everything that’s going on and everything that’s important and that part of your brain makes you anxious because it’s constantly reminding you “you gotta do this, you gotta do this, don’t forget this” but the truth is that part of your brain has no sense of time.

I mean, rationally, you know that lying in bed awake at night stressed about something at work is not gonna help you; you can’t act on it right now but there’s that part of your brain that’s thinking about it, you know, and not thinking in a good way like a back burner kinda of like “Hmmm, how do I solve this; but sort of panicked about it. So if you put it on paper, that part of your brain can relax and say “Ok, we got this; we’re ok”. So a piece of paper and a pen beside your bed will make you a less stressed, happier person. That’s what I do when I can’t sleep because of anxiety. Thanks very much for watching the video. As you can tell, it’s a different day. I’m just uploading them, uploading video now and I’m talking quietly because the kids are sleeping so I hope you really enjoyed it and if you like it, you can hit subscribe up at the top; it’s the yellow button and you’ll get the next ones.

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Why do I procrastinate so much?

Why do I procrastinate so much?

There are all kinds of reasons why we procrastinate and rather than go through them…a few of them are: feeling overwhelmed; feeling like we’re not sure what to do; feeling like we resent being sort of forced to do things we don’t want to do. There’s all kinds of reasons that we procrastinate, but it’s important to realize that procrastination is normal and we all put on a front – a show of just how much we get done because we want other people to think well of us and think highly of us and think that we’re competent but realize that there a lot of people who don’t do as much as their public persona says that they do and a lot of people struggle with procrastination and it’s a perfectly normal thing.

Are you a generalist or a specialist

I wanted to make this video for you to, with just an idea of how to move faster. You know, we all know somebody who just seems to scream through life and get a lot done. Before we get there, one really quick thought. There are two types of rules in business or entrepreneurship: there’s being a specialist and being a generalist. Are you a generalist or a specialist?

So a specialist is someone who is really good at one thing and a generalist is someone who is pretty good at lots of things. If you’re a specialist – let’s say you love to cook. You want to be very careful about opening a restaurant because you think “I love to cook and people love to eat and I’ll open up a restaurant. I’ll get to do what I love.” You know running a restaurant involves a lot of hiring people, managing people, running the cash register, you know, marketing, sales, opening, closing, cleaning, sweeping, cleaning the kitchen, health codes – you’re not going to be in the kitchen cooking all of the time which is what you love. Entrepreneurs usually succeed as generalists. You’re pretty good at managing a bunch of different things. You probably know the projects you tend to go too deep with; to spend too much time on. So the trick is before you start that project, you can say “Ok, how much time am I going to spend on this?”

And if you think “Well, usually I would spend 6 hours”, start a timer and only spend 4 hours on that project and you’ve limited your time. So by limiting your time, you’re not going to get too lost because you know you’ve only got 4 hours or whatever it is. And the truth is, you’ll often find that the difference between perfection and “good enough” – pretty good – not perfect but pretty good is actually not too bad – not too far. Good enough is actually just fine. In a sense, there’s, there’s a decreasing return on effort.

Here’s an example. Let’s take jogging. Let’s say you jog for 15 minutes every day. Ok, you’re going to see a pretty decent increase in your health. You’re going to feel it; you’re going to feel different. If you jog an hour a day, you would feel it even more. As you go out forward and you drive more and more, the benefits decline, you’re going to get in more shape; you’re in better shape, but let’s say you’re timing yourself on how fast you can run a mile. It’s gonna get, you’re increases per effort are gonna get smaller, smaller and smaller until you get out to the people who run in the Olympics. Those people are, are improving by hundredths of a second and they are happy that they are breaking world records but to do that they’re getting more and more extreme. So at some point, the effort, you’re starting to get sort of declining results. Ok, I hope you found this video useful. It’s been fun to make and now I’m going to have to prove to you that I can get it out there without getting too perfectionist about it. So go easy on me with the editing so I’m to chop it up too much and get crazy and upload it. It is Wednesday just about noon and I’ll see how I can get this to you. “Here’s an example” is repeated several times.

How to make friends at college

When you go to college, try to do new things and by doing new things, you will find new friends along with finding new skill sets along with discovering new things, you’ll find new friends that will pull you in interesting and new directions and some of the experience of college is just newness – novelty, trying different things and discovering more about yourself and in the process and that’s how to make friends at college; you’ll make fantastic friends.

How to stay focused at the gym

So if you’re having trouble at the gym and you’re being distracted by everything going on around you, try to put something in your ears, either ear plugs or ear phones and listen to something that blocks everything out so at least you’re not hearing the sounds of it you’re in your own kind of inner world a little bit more and that’s how to stay focused at the gym.

How to stay focused on a book

If you find that a book is just too big and overwhelming for you, then what you need to do is break it down into smaller chunks so you can look at how many days you have to red the book if it’s an assignment at school and you can break it down into how many pages you need to read each day between now and then and you just knock it off and you’re done; go have fun. Don’t, you don’t force yourself to read extra, just do your little bit and go and that’s how to stay focused on a book.